Pregnancy and Birth

I am an older mum pregnant with my second child, my first child is from a previous marriage and is 17. When I was bringing up my son I had not even thought of sleeping in a bed with him, my husband at the time was quite conservative and by upbringing so was I. We put Ashton into a cot in his own room from very early on, without thinking that there might be another way to do it. Ashton has never been an easy sleeper and has always been anxious, often had nightmares and in general sleep has been an issue for him. Now that I am pregnant with my second child my new husband and I are discussing where our baby should sleep and if he should sleep in the bed with us. What do you think is the right thing to do?

My first child (3.5yrs, girl) was in intensive care for the first 3 weeks of her life. My my second child is now 10 months (boy) and i have noticed he is a lot more needy than my daughter. I'm concerned my daughter has not bonded with me properly - how will i know? Could the initial intensive care have interfered with our bond?