Jul 7, 2013

15 year old is urinating on the carpets

Category: Teens
Posted By: Oksana
Question: Hi, I have a 15 year old stepdaughter who is urinating in the house, on rugs, bathroom rugs, on the toilet floor. She is does wet her pants but removes them to pee. Most of time she pees on the bathroom rugs. I also have the same rugs downstairs in kitchen and she often urinates on them as well.Recently it has become more frequent.  When she was in primary school she was reconized as having late development, she was shy and she could not talk to people.  I married her father 4 years ago and she stays with us weekends and holidays.

I can see her mental problem come like waves.  She is also eats a lot of chocolate and sweets and uses huge amounts of soap in the shower and lies a lot.  I love her and worry about her. I asked my husband to take her to the doctor, but he think he is just teenager its will go.  We haven’t tried to speak to her about why she is doing this because I don’t know what to say.  Please help I dont know what to do or how can I help.   Thank you, Oksana

 

Answer: Hi Oksana, I am really sorry to hear that you are having such problems with your step-daughter.  It does sound really upsetting.  I am sorry to say that I really don’t think you can treat this as normal teenage behaviour, it is not normal behaviour at this age and is a sign of some considerable distress or disturbance in your step-daughter.   I cannot guess at what your step-daughter is trying to communicate with this behaviour but I think that it is important that you investigate and see what is causing the disturbance.

You mention in your question that you haven’t tried to speak to your step-daughter.  I really think that you do need to talk to her.  You can let her know that you have noticed what she is doing and you understand that she may be upset about something.  Let her know that you are happy for her to tell you anything, no matter how secret or worrying she thinks it might be.

I also think that it is important that you take her to the GP and ask for a referral for an assessment for your step-daughter.  I think that her symptoms need further investigation and I think that they are severe enough that she would qualify for help through the NHS.

I wish you luck with managing the situation.

Best wishes,

Ryan



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